How to overcome your fears of failure
Writer Patrick Edblad shares the secret of how he bravely looks eyes the harshest failure. The recipe is so universal that you can benefit and to overcome your fears of failure.
Remember that mastery comes with time.
One day an elderly Pablo Picasso was sitting in a cafe and something drawing on a napkin. He did not notice, with what kind of awe looking at him sitting next to the woman. A couple of minutes later, Master finished his coffee, crumpled up a piece of paper and waved to throw it into the ballot box. The movement interrupted the question:
Can I leave the napkin myself? – Instantaneously reacted the woman. – I will pay.
– Of course – said the artist. – It will cost you 20 thousand dollars.
– Excuse me, how much? You did drawing in just two minutes.
– No, Madam, – answer Picasso. – I needed to it more than 60 years.
Picasso lived 91 years. He died in 1973 and by that, time gathered awesome fund. His creative legacy has become famous throughout the world. The total number of work nearer to 50 thousand. Among them paintings, drawings, sculptures, ceramics, and tapestries.
For decades, Picasso honed his skills and eventually reached such a level that the estimated sloppy sketch hastily in a fortune or at least successfully joked about that. In any case, the morality lies on the surface: mastery comes with time. In any case, you must constantly practice.
For this purpose should not slow down the tempo or give up, even if the failure happens. Failures should be part of comfort.
Look the face of fear
Each of us was a kid and did not think whether it is necessary to learn to walk. No matter the first attempts turn around with collapse – we just continued in spite of everything. We get up, take a step and fell, hurt, maybe cried a moment, and then tried again. Never twisted in the head: “Yes, friend, you’re a heck of an awkward, walking – just not your.”
Obviously, the fear of failure comes as we grow. Eventually, everyone begins to feel shame by the thought of how failures will become general fun. The majority in advance – throws out the lifeline and limited with what they have in hand.
For this reason, each failure sends the brain a red stop light: no longer do. And let this reaction gives us a sense of security, it prevents to realize our limitless potential.
Do not forget that the only way to become a better version of yourself – to be ready to fall and to overcome your fears. The success is inseparable from the failure.
Focus on what you can control
Stoic philosopher Epictetus believed that people should focus on the internals – Internal factors subordinates controlling. For example, character, values, and behavior. To externalities includes the past, most of the natural world, the thoughts and actions of others.
There is only one way to calmness – to stop worrying about the things that are beyond the power of our will.
This thought helps me to overcome the fear of failure. Almost every time I am preparing to write series, unpleasant thoughts fill up my head: “Who are you, in general? No one will read it. My friend, your texts miserable. You simply nothing to say, right. Throw this away and go do something else. ”
In the past, these fears have enslaved me. But with time I came the understanding that I am not thoughts, I’m the one who hears them. Then my thoughts related to external things. I can not control what hovers in my head right now, so worrying about it doesn’t make sense.
In another hand, my texts belong to the internals. I can control them. That’s why I accept the decision and continue to develop skills. I am not looking at the doubts and typing until the end.
This is another part of my profession, which usually becomes a big problem. You can exactly imagine what I mean, if at least once in your life created something and showed it all over the world.
Positive comments cause good feelings. But the situation becomes terrible if you get negative.
So do not forget, that the statements of other people – this externality, which necessary to concern with a healthy proportion of indifference. It is impossible to please everyone, so do not spray power and do not waste time on pointless attempts.
When you covers the fear of failure, remember the philosophical wisdom and overcome your fears:
Think about the source of fear, and let him go back if he came from the side, and do not subservient to you. As time passes, so do not burn it in vain impulses to correct something.
If you understand that object of trouble sits inside you, use it as a trigger. Stop thinking and get down to business.
Be a child who is learning to walk. Fall, without worrying about how it looks and what people think. A new attempt. And another one. Again, try.
Picasso created 50 thousand works of art that speak to him the whole world. What are you willing?
Every child – the artist. The problem is how to remain an artist when childhood was gone.